What have you done for your relationship today?
It’s the little things, not the earth-shaking things, the everyday expressions of affection, respect, love that cause the spouse to say, `You know, I’m a pretty lucky person to have this other individual in my life as my life partner.’
You can have a healthy, loving, giving, life-giving marriage/relationship which will carry you through those rocky times.
But…what’s sabotaging your love life? Could it be you?
Our lives are not determined by what happens to us but by how we react to what happens, not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thought, events and outcomes. It is a catalyst, a spark that creates extraordinary results. Sometimes we need to change to make a change.
Conflict can push people away from each other or pull them into a closer, more loving union; it can bring about a complete disconnect or one of unity and a deeper mutual understanding. Few people accept the fact that conflict is part of life and actually provides an opportunity for self-growth and development.
Whenever we have repeated a pattern many times, it is difficult to change. But all patterns ultimately can in fact be changed. It is a question of having a clear goal – and then being motivated to take action. Growth means change and change involves risk, stepping from the known to the unknown.
It is easier to change patterns when two parties are willing to work together. If you are the only one, it takes more strength, more courage, and more resilience. That’s why cooperation is essential in a marriage/relationship. Have Courage to Change.
Often we are so quick to point fingers and blame a loved one for circumstances without first understanding why we and they are reacting the way they are. Pain has a way of clipping our wings and keeping us from being able to fly, yet love always leaves a significant mark.
Throughout your life, you are writing your autobiography through all that you do. You are in the middle of writing the story of your present and future life. Your current self-image tells the story about yourself until now. Since you are still in the middle of this life story, at any given moment you can speak and act in ways that elevate the story of your life and make it more meaningful. You can choose to do much more good than ever before, become more spiritual, gain wisdom, be kinder, influence others, and refine your character traits. The positive things that you can do now revise the entire picture of your life.
Each minute, hour, day, week, month, and year, you write new sentences, paragraphs, pages, and chapters. The positive choices you make, what you think, say, and do, add self-image-building content to your entire life. Every entry in your autobiography adds to the entire picture. Many entries make just minor additions. At times, an important entry can change the entire picture of where you are now and what direction you are headed. One in two marriages will end in divorce…so what are the top factors contributing to this trend and how can this trend be reversed?
If you’ve ever yearned for a connection, wanted more intimacy in your relationship, or worried that you and your partner are falling out of love – then Imago Relationships are here to help.
Introduction to Imago Relationship Therapy is a 3hr ‘mini’ workshop providing an overview of Imago Theory and principles and how our mental image of love and differences can help improve communication in your personal relationships with your partner and children and in the professional world.
If you are currently not in a relationship, the personal insights and tools gained will give you a good grounding for your next relationship.
Date: Sat 16 Oct 2010 – 14:00-17:00
Place: 3 Quartz Rd, Witkoppen Ext, Fourways
Cost: R200pp
Book early as spaces are limited to 10 people to ensure a personal, interactive session.