Do you have Passion in your relationship? Paula Quinsee
It always amazes me how we spend so much time, energy, money and resources on other areas of our lives such as education, insurance, houses, cars etc, yet we spend so little time on the growth and development of our relationship/s. We seem to think that once we’ve paid for the wedding; walked down the aisle and said “I do”, we’re all set to live happily ever after. Yet statistics tell us that 1 in every 3 marriages end up in the divorce courts. And second marriages are not much better as we just repeat our past mistakes.
So do you have Passion in your relationship? I’m not talking physical passion here…I’m talking Relationship Passion!
P – Purpose
Do you both have the same purpose for your relationship? Do you still want to backpack around the world together like when you first met and fell in love? Or has that changed and now you would rather have a family and settle down? Share your dreams, goals and vision with each other constantly to check that you are still on the same page.
A – Attitude
Your attitude towards your partner and your relationship will determine the quality and success of your relationship. Are you always focusing on the negative aspects of your relationship and partner such as fault finding, criticizing, blaming and shaming? Few people accept the fact that conflict is part of life and actually provides an opportunity for self-growth and development. Focus on the good stuff and you will create more of it.
S – Self Confidence
There is nothing more attractive than a self confident person who is secure in themselves as well as their partner and relationship. Are you clingy, insecure and possessive? Understand what is triggering these aspects within you and work at changing them into a fabulous, self confident you for you and your partner.
S – Staying Power
Do you have the staying power to ride out the rough patches? All relationships encounter a bump in the road now and then but, your willingness to work them out together to create and achieve common goals vs. giving up or the silent treatment will make it all the more worthwhile.
I – Issues
Do you work through your issues in a non confrontational win-win manner or is it about always being right and keeping score? Constructive and honest conversations are the hardest but the most effective. And remember, apologising doesn’t mean that you are wrong and the other is right. It means that you value the relationship more than your Ego.
O – Outrageous
Have fun! Let the silly side in you both come out and make time to play. The more fun and happy times you share together, the stronger the bond and connection you will create and have.
N – Needs
You are not a mind reader and nor is your partner so learn to state your needs clearly to avoid mishaps. 90% of problems in any relationship are due to the lack of communication.
If you’ve ever yearned for a connection, wanted more intimacy in your relationship, or worried that you and your partner are falling out of love – then Imago Relationships are here to help. Remember – with love, you grow together and conquer all.
Introduction to Imago Relationship Therapy is a 3hr ‘mini’ workshop providing an overview of Imago Theory and principles and how our mental image of love and differences can help improve communication in your personal relationships with your partner and children and in the professional world.
If you are currently not in a relationship, the personal insights and tools gained will give you a good grounding for your next relationship.
Date: Sat 16 Oct 2010 – 14:00-17:00
Place: 3 Quartz Rd, Witkoppen Ext, Fourways
Cost: R200pp
Book early as spaces are limited to ensure a personal, interactive session.